In the summers of my childhood, I would spend some weeks with my father in a college town nestled in the pines of East Texas. The house he shared with my grandmother had a sloping yard with spilling roils of ivy that led on one side into the untamed forest, where patchy grass and gopher burrows gave way sharply to the crunch of dried pine needles blanketing sandy soil underfoot. Walking through the forest was a thrill. Each journey was a test of how far in I would dare to go before the threat of its many dangers — the…


In its final season, “Pose” remains a cultural force celebrating the queer Black and brown performers of ballroom culture whose influence ripples across generations. The show makes nods to people and events in “Paris is Burning,” its spiritual predecessor, but Jennie Livingston’s 1990 documentary is by no means required viewing to connect with the vibrant cast of “Pose.” Rather, the callbacks are the frame on which the writers drape their own histories, longing, and angst in a rich composite of found families and dreams realized against the odds. The show walks a narrative tightrope between honoring the deeply intersectional struggles…


As a longtime fan of the Animal Crossing series, I was admittedly late to the party when it came to New Horizons. I have a soft spot for the simple, zen mechanics of early GameCube titles — I play the original Pikmin because it’s calming and I know the game by memory, but I’ve never picked up the sequels. The original Animal Crossing was far from perfect, but it was lovable. Its mechanics were simple, there was an easy cheat to get infinite wealth, and you could tend each digital acre of your town in discreet squares until they were…


Inside the December 2020 issue of Vogue is something unremarkable and remarkable at the same time. Unremarkably, a cover star speaks candidly about life and self-expression to the magazine’s European editor-at-large, interspersed with gorgeous photography of beautiful clothing against the backdrop of the English countryside. Remarkably, this month’s cover star is the first man to grace the cover solo in the magazine’s 127-year history, a huge honor for a generation-defining fashion icon. …


What's on my schedule? Let me consult my iPhone reminders, bullet journal, Kanban Boards, Asana task list, Post-It notes, Google Calendar, and bulletin board.

usiness school was the first time in my life where I was forced to take initiative and control my own calendar. Normally I relied on direction from my parents, class and club schedules, and my fraternity’s list of obligations (study hours, mandatory meetings, philanthropy events, and yes, parties) to tell me where to go next, a strategy that worked well enough for the first 23 years of my life. Graduate school presented a more rigorous academic…


Analysis of millennials has provided a lot of insight, and a lot more opportunities for sloppy analysis and lazy stereotyping.

Photo by Mariana Medvedeva on Unsplash

The millennial generation has come of age under a microscope—the subject of polling, data analysis, and dissection, propelled by the explosion of the Internet and the rapid dissemination of consumable hot takes through social media. Countless op-eds and breathless lectures in university classrooms and corporate meeting spaces have been devoted to explaining this cohort of young-ish adults—their sense of entitlement, their bucking against social and class norms, and a rabid, feverish love for avocado toast.

Who belongs to this cohort…


The road through grief and healing from grandson to grandmother.

I was at my desk in the office where I work in downtown Manhattan, texting my mother in San Antonio, TX and nervously optimistic about my grandmother’s prognosis. “Let me know what I can do when we know more,” I said.

“I will.” my mom replied. “Could send a nice card.”

“Okay.”

My grandmother had driven herself to the hospital after complaining about not feeling well, something that was concerning but not atypical. Treatment for pain turned into rapid deterioration over the coming days as she receded into a semi-conscious, then unconscious state. …


Fitting in with my fraternity brothers stifled my creativity — mushrooms helped it blossom

All art by Matt Becher

I remember looking down at the psychedelic mushrooms — inelegantly draped over American cheese on a dollar-menu cheeseburger — and wondering if this was really going to be my first foray into psilocybin. The taste was a little gamey, but the burger was gone in seconds; I was ready for my trip to begin.

Two weeks earlier, one of our fraternity pledges had proudly announced that he was growing the mushrooms in his dorm room closet and, eager to impress, offered to share with two of us. I was 21, a passable but not excellent design student with all the…


It’s been a bumpy season full of dramatic twists, shock eliminations, and jumps “from there,” but the third season of All Stars ended with a newly-crowned superstar in a contentious victory. Spoilers are ahead, so be warned.

We find out that the final challenge to a RuPaul song du jour will be a routine to “Kitty Girl” but the stakes this season are higher: the queens have to stick choreography from Todrick Hall, who has hopefully endeared himself enough as a talented guest worthy of more inclusion. The twist: an ambitious live routine done in a single take, with a…


Sony Pictures Classics

Since its premiere at Sundance in January, Call Me By Your Name — the tender romance story based on André Aciman’s 2007 novel of the same name — has built buzz among critics and gay men for its portrayal of a fleeting, intense summer love. The awkward, honest chemistry between Timothée Chalamet’s bookish, brooding Elio and Armie Hammer’s sun-kissed, carefree Oliver simmers and stews as the two move in a delicate dance that boils over into a passionate romance. …

Matt Becher

Arts fundraiser, illustrator, and freelance writer. Featured on Esquire.com, Fatherly, and others. Three-time @quora Top Writer. http://www.mattbecher.com

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