Inside the December 2020 issue of Vogue is something unremarkable and remarkable at the same time. Unremarkably, a cover star speaks candidly about life and self-expression to the magazine’s European editor-at-large, interspersed with gorgeous photography of beautiful clothing against the backdrop of the English countryside. Remarkably, this month’s cover star is the first man to grace the cover solo in the magazine’s 127-year history, a huge honor for a generation-defining fashion icon. …

What's on my schedule? Let me consult my iPhone reminders, bullet journal, Kanban Boards, Asana task list, Post-It notes, Google Calendar, and bulletin board.

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usiness school was the first time in my life where I was forced to take initiative and control my own calendar. Normally I relied on direction from my parents, class and club schedules, and my fraternity’s list of obligations (study hours, mandatory meetings, philanthropy events, and yes, parties) to tell me where to go next, a strategy that worked well enough for the first 23 years of my life. Graduate school presented a more rigorous academic schedule: homework that left little room for error, internship obligations, and more networking events, workshops, and socials than I could attend all at once. My peers, often more experienced, more privileged, and more business-minded, seemed to have it all together (including, to my frustration, plenty of six-figure job offers before our class was anywhere near graduation). …

Analysis of millennials has provided a lot of insight, and a lot more opportunities for sloppy analysis and lazy stereotyping.

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Photo by Mariana Medvedeva on Unsplash

The millennial generation has come of age under a microscope—the subject of polling, data analysis, and dissection, propelled by the explosion of the Internet and the rapid dissemination of consumable hot takes through social media. Countless op-eds and breathless lectures in university classrooms and corporate meeting spaces have been devoted to explaining this cohort of young-ish adults—their sense of entitlement, their bucking against social and class norms, and a rabid, feverish love for avocado toast.

Who belongs to this cohort is not universally agreed upon. As such, the irony is never lost when an ambitious, self-praising young professional positions themselves as rejecting puerile self-obsession and frivolous spending without realizing they are, in fact, sitting right in the middle of the millennial age range. Millennials insisting they are not millennials (or at least "not like the other Millennials") while older generations insist they are drives at a conflict of interpretive biases: while data science is becoming more sophisticated and nuanced with regard to generations, the way generational profiles are ultimately used by the public remains imprecise, sloppy, and self-serving. …

The road through grief and healing from grandson to grandmother.

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I was at my desk in the office where I work in downtown Manhattan, texting my mother in San Antonio, TX and nervously optimistic about my grandmother’s prognosis. “Let me know what I can do when we know more,” I said.

“I will.” my mom replied. “Could send a nice card.”

“Okay.”

My grandmother had driven herself to the hospital after complaining about not feeling well, something that was concerning but not atypical. Treatment for pain turned into rapid deterioration over the coming days as she receded into a semi-conscious, then unconscious state. …

Fitting in with my fraternity brothers stifled my creativity — mushrooms helped it blossom

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All art by Matt Becher

I remember looking down at the psychedelic mushrooms — inelegantly draped over American cheese on a dollar-menu cheeseburger — and wondering if this was really going to be my first foray into psilocybin. The taste was a little gamey, but the burger was gone in seconds; I was ready for my trip to begin.

Two weeks earlier, one of our fraternity pledges had proudly announced that he was growing the mushrooms in his dorm room closet and, eager to impress, offered to share with two of us. I was 21, a passable but not excellent design student with all the external trappings of a frat boy: boat shoes, a backwards cap emblazoned with my fraternity letters, some random T-shirt earned by getting chummy with the sororities on campus. In many ways, I looked like and was a parade of stereotypes about men, fraternities, and college life. I was expecting to spend the afternoon laying around and laughing at nothing. …

It’s been a bumpy season full of dramatic twists, shock eliminations, and jumps “from there,” but the third season of All Stars ended with a newly-crowned superstar in a contentious victory. Spoilers are ahead, so be warned.

We find out that the final challenge to a RuPaul song du jour will be a routine to “Kitty Girl” but the stakes this season are higher: the queens have to stick choreography from Todrick Hall, who has hopefully endeared himself enough as a talented guest worthy of more inclusion. The twist: an ambitious live routine done in a single take, with a majority of the routine happening backstage. …

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Sony Pictures Classics

Since its premiere at Sundance in January, Call Me By Your Name — the tender romance story based on André Aciman’s 2007 novel of the same name — has built buzz among critics and gay men for its portrayal of a fleeting, intense summer love. The awkward, honest chemistry between Timothée Chalamet’s bookish, brooding Elio and Armie Hammer’s sun-kissed, carefree Oliver simmers and stews as the two move in a delicate dance that boils over into a passionate romance. …

There’s a ton of educational value in museums. The museums of the world are still waiting for you, but the great museums are coming to you in new and exciting ways.

It’s true that, with the proliferation of the Internet, a much larger portion of our population has access to millions of images that previous generations couldn’t even dream of. It's a common write off to say that the Internet is killing the museum for this very reason.

Want to see the Mona Lisa? You can access high-res photos of one of the most famous paintings in the world, in all her original glory and marked up and edited any way you can think…

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Matt Becher

Arts fundraiser, illustrator, and freelance writer. Featured on Esquire.com, Fatherly, and others. Three-time @quora Top Writer. http://www.mattbecher.com

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